The straight shooters always seem to get the most criticism. Let the truth be told or not! Its always better to tell the truth than to lie. Sounds familiar?
No one likes a liar according to most people I speak to on an everyday basis but I wonder...
I often beat myself up if I ever have to tell a lie, you know the little white lies that seem so harmless to you and many of us. I very seldom have to lie and by the way I am no saint according to what I have been told about myself.
Everyday we face different struggles and when those struggles become unbearable most of us are forced to do and say things to help ourselves out of those struggles. For instance the things you may say to get you a job when most needed may be far from the truth. I am sure you may not have to stray far from the truth but when asked those questions which seem like the deal breaker you will consider answering appropriately. The Human brain is a great absorber of information which consumes enough info to either inspire a person or simply turn them off. If your story is wonderful to the person listening then your lie is really just an inspired thought to the listener and of course in a strange way the two minds matches.
I recently was sold a lie from a mechanic shop in my neighborhood on Kipling avenue located in north Etobicoke. I wont give specific details of the shop simply of fear of being sued for defamation of character which is always not cool. It really pisses me off when I am lied to, when lies are bold and specific I sometimes try to see under the core to see what it is that propelled this lie. This time I am really not sure besides a few hundred dollars which I lost to the shop, why would their lie to me over something very small. I still have a broken car but now I have gained some valuable knowledge to never trust that business word again. So now they have lost me forever as a customer and my friends wont ever go there.
Have you ever been lied to by a spouse? Do you remember what that feels like after you found out that you were being fed lies on top of lies. It hurts and no one likes to be hurt in no form of way. You may laugh it off as much as you wish but those hurtful lies will place pain some where beneath your core and continue to rupture what is left of the goodness within you. Surely we all get past the hurt and we eventually move on to be more aware and suspicious of people in our lives.
Politicians lie all the time to the public. This is more intentional and deliberate yet we accept this behavior and condemn other types. Something must be wrong with us or clearly we just accept lies as it becomes a normal practice in our society. I often see the same types bunch together and that old saying "birds of a feather flock together" really must be true. Churches always seem to attract the liars who think they can erase what they have done, repent and be forgiven.
So it's accepted, easily done. We forgive those who have accepted their past behavior and admits to lying. What about the ones who have never admitted to their tendencies to mislead others and still be allowed to cause more damage? They often forget that they are liars, their world is sealed with so many lies that they continue to lie to themselves and this usually helps them in a twisted way.
Husbands are almost forced into lying to their wives constantly. On many occasions women want to be complimented on their looks and to be reminded how pretty they are. To be honest, your husband will never tell you how terrible you look for fear of many things. If you want him to be honest and be truthful to you then you may have to accept his honesty and realize that he isn't saying things on purpose to hurt your feelings. Of course, that's not what you want to hear.
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